in this lifetime

one fact a person must accept in life is that some things in life are bound to be lost. some bonds will be broken. friendships and precious memories forgotten. its not inevitable but this is an accepted reality. why? because its difficult to have it otherwise. and its difficult because of two factors: time and the mortal nature of man.

this reality of life or maybe life itself needs to adjust to the unbreakable force of time. well, time at the moment is unbreakable since it cannot be reversed except in theory. while our current reality lacks the capability to reverse time, time will dictate the course of things, with it, the life of every living thing, including the planet's life force. and im going out of focus. going back, due to this reality, our lives needs to adjust so as to not be left behind by time. and we need to adjust further because of our limited capacity to exist. in short, we dont have much time and time isnt willing to give us more than what we are capable of acquiring. meaning, aside from being forced to walk beside the dictated course of time, we also need to learn how to maximize its use because time doesnt care if we can keep up with its pace or not.

that is why it has become a reality for us to accept that things will be lost in our lifetime. because as much as we try to hold on to things, time will just keep moving forward, and the more we lag behind, the more difficult it is for us to get back on track. people who hold on to things too much get stuck. from the viewpoint of the rest of the population, they are immobile. they are paralyzed. some would try to help them to get out of that situation, others will keep moving forward. thats why i said its not inevitable. something can be done actually. its a matter of what you choose to do. but again, most people choose to move forward, hence, the creation of the reality we now accept. and when i say reality, i mean the popular choice that has become a social norm. this is the kind of reality im talking about.

its like our life can be divided into a number of overlapping loveable sitcoms (or tragedies or dramas or a mix of all or some, depending on the kind of life you have. but since were talking about bonds/friendships and things people hold dear, a sitcom is the appropriate one to use). some sitcoms may run for as short as one season, maybe even less and some as long as a decade, maybe longer. to the sitcoms that have ended, some people try to have those one-night only reunions where the cast try to have one last show (i would like to make use of the Eraserheads as example but, although its been confirmed, it hasnt really happened yet and its not a sitcom). and for some, this is enough for them so they can move on. its like a closure for them. they're happy that they had a one last run because in reality, the sitcom's last episode isnt scheduled. it just happens.some are aware of it, some are not.

unfortunately, there are those who cant accept this reality of losing bonds/friendships, of having a "last episode". they would insist on having another run, another reunion or any other way just to keep things the way they were. its sad enough that we have to accept this form of loss but its sadder to see those who cannot accept it. because they're trying to hold on to something precious to them, maybe the only thing that matters in their lives or probably means everything to them, yet time will never wait, life will not stop and the reality is not in their favor. they are not wrong to do this, to keep on holding on to what they believe is of paramount importance. but its not matter of whether its right or wrong. its a matter of acknowledging the unyielding strength of time coupled with the harshness of reality and life. one can go against it because it can be done, its not impossible to continue holding on to things. but it means wasting time and wasting one's life simply because the reality we have now isnt about holding on to things, its about keeping up with the pace of time and just keep moving forward because our time in this world is limited. its our tendency to maximize the use of the little time we have. we try to explore as much as we can, experience all that can be possibly be experienced. holding on to things is limiting our exposure to what this lifetime can offer. and simply, thats just not our "reality". it may be pitiful to see people who cannot accept this reality but you cant blame them for trying to go against the reality we have. its their choice, the same way other people made their choice of moving on and making sure they keep up with time.