chemistry makes it look good

why do some people assume that if two people have good chemistry they are a good match? i think it doesnt necessarily follow and its a hit and miss thing if turned into a serious romantic relationship. and when i say chemistry, i mean the external type (rapport and not mutual attraction). and when i say external type, i mean the ones perceived by third persons. and i dont know if its appropriate to call it external chemistry (and internal chemistry). maybe theres a better term but im going to stick to my terms anyway since this is not some serious stuff.

chemistry is pretty much (yes, i used pretty much), just chemistry. it can exist without intimacy or affection. its like watching a good sitcom or tv show hosts or listening to radio DJs. they can have good chemistry or an incredibly smooth and entertaining partnership. they can make themselves appear as one cohesive unit but the moment the show ends, so does the relationship. they go their separate ways until they meet again for the show. they really dont care about each other's lives or at least each other's affairs. they dont even have to be friends in real life. they can be enemies yet they can still put on a good show (if they are professional enough not to allow personal feelings affect their work)

in real life its not an act but something similar. sometimes the chemistry is what appears to those who see it, those who watch it. the good chemistry is how other people perceive it. but how do the individuals who have good chemistry perceive each other? do they think the same way as other people do? does he or she see the other as having a good chemistry with him or her to the point that he or she might think theres more than chemistry? or is it simply good chemistry? chemistry can lead to attraction but it doesnt necessarily follow. or it doesnt have to follow. one can have a good and meaningful relationship with someone even without the external chemistry. because i think chemistry as most people understand it is something that is perceived by the senses of third persons (rapport) and not something that is felt between the interested parties (mutual attraction or internal chemistry). so its possible that a couple may not appear to have a good chemistry as other people see it, like they cant even finish each other's sentences or interact without looking like strangers to each other (rapport) but to the two of them theres some unspoken bond that cant be expressed but only felt which of course cant be sensed by third persons but by only interested parties (mutual attraction).

so whats my point? actually i started with only the external chemistry in mind. while writing the entry, i realized that theres such a thing as internal chemistry. and since im more than halfway done, i just tried to cover the "holes" in what i was writing because im too lazy to re-write the entry. my point is simply the answer to the first sentence. chemistry, as understood to be the one that third persons perceive, is not attraction and its not good to assume that its indicative of a possibly good or successful romantic relationship because it would still boil down on how the two people perceive each other and not how they are perceived by third persons. chemistry makes it look good but not because it looks good means it also feels good.