promises are hard to keep...sometimes. is that why the word promissory sounds apologetic?

respect is something that is earned. you dont demand it. and i certainly dont give it that easily. and its harder it earn it once it is lost.

i have lots of reasons for not giving respect to a person. one reason is if a person does not know how to commit or constantly breaks promises to the point of being inconsiderate. i dont give respect to those kind of people.

i exert a lot of effort not to break promises or stick to what ive committed to (thats why i dont easily commit to something until im really sure that i can fulfill it). thats why i easily get pissed with people who cant keep promises or live up to the expectations they themselves created or initiated. its like a lawyer who keeps scheduling meetings and appointments with clients and changing the plans in the last minute. clients, usually, try their best to accomodate their lawyers, to adjust their schedules for them. and its just inconsiderate for a lawyer to constantly change what has been agreed upon because it disrupts not only the schedule of his or her client, but possibly his or her life.

the same goes for ordinary personal relationships. one shouldnt just throw statements saying that he or she means it but in reality, its merely words to him or her. meaningless words. and to have those words said to me, is really a waste of my time and thats why i dont respect people who do that. and demanding respect will certainly make it more impossible for me to give it. it just means he or she is really not worth having around because i dont have time for people who waste my time and clueless that they are wasting my time. thats why im more of an "action speak louder than words" type of person. i give more attention and importance to what the person is doing (or have done) than what the person is saying (or said). so a person can say all he or she wants, argue all day long and explain himself or herself to me and it will not mean anything if his or her actions show otherwise. actions persuade me, not words. but im a listener and thats why im still affected by promises or statements of similar nature that i know will not be kept and i hate to hear such useless words. just to listen to meaningless words is already a waste of brain cells.